How healing impacts our relationships

How healing impacts our relationships

As we focused on a theme of “The Journey” during October, I thought it fitting to share about how a journey of healing affects a person’s relationships. As individuals engage with their own process of healing, a wonderful side-effect takes place. They begin to see a change in how they view people and relationships in their lives. Instead of “using” people to satisfy needs or wants or voids, they begin to see people in the way that God sees them. Instead of being takers, they begin to be givers in the relationships they
have. As we support people in their healing journeys, we have to look for and address ways they have a distorted view of the roles people have. As the Holy Spirit reveals these distortions, He then can speak His truth into how He plans to address their needs through His love, His grace, and His restoration. It’s a learning curve for sure, especially when people have wrongly used and abused people in their lives for years or decades – to meet the needs that only God can. This list is just a simple way to see how we can often use people in distorted ways when we are living out of our brokenness and how God can significantly transform how we view people.
Angela Miller, Women’s Ministry Director

People aren’t…

  • Property….for me to own
  • Prizes…for me to earn, idolize, and display
  • Protectors…for me to use to avoid consequences
  • Projects…for me to fix
  • Puppets…for me to control
  • Possessions…for me to collect and give my life significance
  • Pawns…for me to use to get ahead
  • Prescriptions…to relieve my pain
  • Pacifiers…for me to use to comfort myself
  • Power…for me to manipulate for my gain
  • Playdough…for me to form into the image I want them to be
  • Pleasure…for me to use for my entertainment
  • Punching bag…for me to blame for my life’s hardships and struggles
  • Providers…of my ultimate worth or identity

When we see the distortions and ways we have used people for selfish gain, God can renew our hearts and minds to be able to see people as He sees them…

People are…

Preciousworthy of respect and value

Psalm 139:14 – I will offer You my grateful heart, for I am Your unique creation, filled with wonder and awe. You have approached even the smallest details with excellence; Your works are wonderful; I carry this knowledge deep within my soul.
Matthew 6:26 – Look at the birds in the sky. They do not store food for winter. They don’t plant gardens. They do not sow or reap—and yet, they are always fed because your heavenly Father feeds them. And you are even more precious to Him than a beautiful bird. If He looks after them, of course He will look after you.


Perfected… by God alone

Philippians 1:6 – And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.


Partners… to work alongside of towards a common goal

Ephesians 4:16 – He makes the whole body fit together perfectly. As each part does its own special work, it helps the other
parts grow, so that the whole body is healthy and growing and full of love.
Philippians 2:2 – Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working
together with one mind and purpose.


Portrayers… image bearers of God Himself

Genesis 1:27 – So God created human beings  in his own image.
In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.


Poetry… written by God for His pleasure

Ephesians 2:10 – For we are the product of His hand, heaven’s poetry etched on lives, created in the Anointed, Jesus, to accomplish the good works God arranged long ago.

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